No toxic masculinity is definitely a thing. The idealization of Donald Trump, who brags about grabbing women by the genitals and always has to be bigger and better than everyone else is an example of that. You say only seventeen-year-olds believe in aggressiveness as masculinity, but the leader of America and free world acts in a juvenile manner. Men are both more likely to perpetuate and experience violence as a result of stereotypes that men should be violent https://theconversation.com/how-challenging-masculine-stereotypes-is-good-for-men-114300. Research has shown that deconstructing negative views of what a man should be is better for both men and those around them. So the article is correct.

You say that the media depicting women as leaders while depicting men as a joke which has not traditionally been depicted in media and is not depicted in reality. There are only 1 in 10 female leaders in the workforce https://www.cnbc.com/2017/10/12/a-majority-of-men-say-there-are-enough-women-in-leadership-roles.html.

And in the media, women only make up 16% of directors, writers, and executive producers. https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/women/reports/2014/03/07/85457/fact-sheet-the-womens-leadership-gap/